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What is the best way to make your new cat feel at home? A rescue group in the New York
City area reached out recently for advice in integrating a new cat into a household. The
group had placed a cat with a new owner and after several weeks the owner was
concerned that the cat was not acclimating to the surroundings. According to the new

"It has been a few weeks since I have had (name withheld) and although he comes out at
night to eat and drink he simply will not come out and say hello. I have tried his favorite
treats but he is very stubborn in his ways. I'm not sure if he will bond with me as he still
acts like the first day I got him. He allows me to pet him and seems to love it very much
but even that won't get him out from hiding. He has stayed in my bedroom since and
will only come out while I am asleep (sometimes waking me up when using the litter
box). He is eating, drinking, and using the litter box on a regular basis. I have been very
patient but afraid he will not snap out of his shell. I hate to give him back but feel there is
nothing I can do at this point.  Please let me know if you have any advice."

When it comes to a new environment cats, like humans, need time to feel at
Coming into a new place they have never been before, they enter a whole new,
strange and foreign world with different smells, sights and sounds; one with different
human and non human animals. They are also leaving behind familiar territory and
relationships and this loss of what they knew and who they had bonded with before also
has to be processed. Depending on the individual history and the personality of the cat
the acclimation process may vary from hours, days, weeks or even months.    

Know that the cat would like nothing more than to feel comfortable and at
home immediately.
If the cat were a human instead of a cat he might be able to do just
that. He might be able to use human reasoning to know that he is in a good home with a
friendly, respectful human who will not harm him, who will fill the food bowl and the
water bowl and keep the litter box clean.  

But the cat is not a human so he cannot know this until he experiences it. This
cat can only trust his environment, what he sees, what he hears, what he smells and
feels. And he can only trust the stability and safety of the environment with the passage
of time. And what is sufficient time is determined in enough "cat time' (not human time)
to feel safe and then comfortable and then truly at home.

If the cat has been around dangerous humans (ones who harmed or neglected
him) the cat needs to take the time to make sure the absence of those
dangerous humans is permanent and not temporary.
If the cat could take your
assurance that those humans do not live here surely the cat would. Why waste the
energy on vigilance? But, in the wild and in the world of humans, watching and waiting
is the only way the cat can know that this new world is a safe one.

But you as a human know these things that the cat does not know and with your
help the process can be an expedited one. Here are some ways humans can make this
time pass more quickly for themselves and their new cats:

  • Set up your new cat in a separate room if possible initially, such as your bedroom
    or an office.  Avoid the bathroom, these rooms are the least welcoming in our
    homes for a cat.  If you do not have a separate room, concentrate on a corner of a
    room where you can set up cat furniture, litter box (placed in the farthest spot
    from food and cat furniture), etc.  Your cat's natural instinct will be to hide first
    and get the lay of the land from a "safe" perspective.  Which is why a cat in a new
    home or seeking refuge prefers under the bed or behind a sofa.  Offer an
    alternative, a cat basket or a cardboard box turned on the side with some fleece
    makes a safe haven.  Keep the separate room set up for the first week.  After a
    week, leave the door to this room ajar, so kitty can return from exploring to his
    now known space.

  • A new place will probably mean a loss of appetite. Most cats will not openly eat or
    drink or even use a litter box for the first day or two, preferring to do this under
    cover of night. This is natural, your cat is stressed and is simply operating on "safe
    mode" at the moment. Make the most enticing food available and make sure to
    throw away any leftovers and offer a fresh portion at breakfast and dinner.  

  • Cats and dogs are crepuscular animals, which simply means they are naturally
    most active during twilight or dawn and dusk compared to humans who are
    diurnal meaning most active during daylight hours. Domesticated animals being
    familiar with us and dependent upon us for food and social interaction become
    accustomed to our diurnal routines.  Because your cat has not yet gotten fully
    familiar with you it may only be active during what he perceives as the "safety"
    of night time hours when all is quiet.  Give your cat the time to feel safe and he
    will pretty much adjust his schedule to yours (remember he is a cat and not a dog
    so some night time romping might still occur).

  • Make your presence a soft and welcome one. Speak in a gentle tone to your new
    cat even when you do not immediately see them. For instance, when you enter a
    room where the cat generally spends most of his time greet the cat by saying his
    name and a friendly sentence or two to help accustom him to your movements
    and voice. Your cat is very aware of your presence and announcing yourself and
    speaking to your cat (even when he is not in eyesight) is the first step towards
    having a conversation.

  • Spend time around the cat at cat level so that the cat can get used to you, your
    smell and your voice. Do this by reading out loud or talking softly on the phone
    while sitting on the floor next to the spot your cat has decided is safest (aka his
    hiding place), do this for at least a half hour every day.

  • Leave the radio tuned to a classical music station and do leave it on when you are
    not at home. Classical music is soothing and melodic and the announcers’ voices
    on these stations tend to be soothing and melodic as well. This is a positive
    association for your cat to form.

  • When it comes to petting take your cues from the cat. Do what is welcome and go
    slowly. You are getting to know each other after all. It is always best to initially
    confine caressing to the cats’ head area. Cats greet each other by sniffing nose to
    nose and then rubbing along each others muzzle areas. And stroking between a
    cat’s ears and the back of the head is usually welcomed. 

  • Avoid direct eye contact; this is usually perceived as aggressive by most animals.
    Cats will signal friendly social overtures by blinking slowly at each other. Try it
    out on your cat and don’t be surprised if you get a blink back and see more of a
    relaxed body posture in your cat as well. 

  • Offer playtime. For instance, dangling a feather at the end of a piece of string for
    your cat to pounce on (or to think about pouncing on once he gets to know you)
    allows you to interact with your cat and the quality time creates bonding for the
    both of you.

  • Make your home cat friendly. Now that you live with a new cat provide the
    necessary furnishings: Cat beds with at least three raised sides in good spots are
    mandatory, a box or cat igloo to hide in, as are several cardboard scratch boards,
    fur mice and balls to chase, a cat tower or a window seat see more tips on a cat
    friendly home here, including introducing puzzle feeders once your cat feels at
    home. Cat shelves are a great answer for a cat's natural desire to be in a higher
    spot as well as space-challenged apartment dwellers.  

  • If the cat is installed in one room, gradually move the food, water and litter into
    the other rooms. For instance, place the litter box and the food outside the door for
    several days and then along the hallway (in the direction of their permanent
    placement) for several days and then in their permanent positions. 

Please, for you and your new friend,do take the time to allow your cat to settle in and be
rewarded by the deeper human animal bond that will form.
The right cat furniture, relationship with you and time will help your new cat to feel at home
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Cats being both prey and predator love being high enough to survey their environment
"When it comes to a new environment
cats, like humans, need time to feel at
home. Coming into a new place they
have never been before, they enter a
whole new, strange and foreign world
with different smells, sights and
sounds; one with different human
and non human animals. They are
also leaving behind familiar territory
and relationships."
Take the time to allow your cat to trust you by being the person they want you to be
Interactive cat play is the best way to grow your relationship with kitty
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